This last Thursday at Concord MCI Gary, Alan and I reviewed the last few sessions in the PoF curriculum and Gary completed the Drama Triangle session from the week before as our time was cut short that night. Because we have a sixteen week program there are options to either review a few sessions or draw out a particular session over two weeks. Last week we reviewed Who am I?, Change Inside and Out, and Holding your Seat and State Shifting. Reviewing a few sessions in an abbreviated manner allows for tying the program together all in one sitting and some creative exploration of the material.
A couple of things stood out for me during this last class – both meditations fit and enhanced the program we were presenting. Gary’s (his own) was a guided visualization med and Alan’s was a guided breath counting med. Neither was very long so the guys were relaxed but not about to fall asleep. During check-in a couple of the men said they’d gone over together the Deep Belly Breathing med instruction that we’d given out copies of the week before. Quite a few of the men have been using that and the Body Scan to help them get to sleep, but hearing that a few men were going over some of the med instruction together was encouraging.
What stood out most for me was that the guys seem to light up as we talked about what is Basic Goodness. It felt like they were getting it or at least were wanting or willing to entertain belief in its existence. My perception about this was visceral. That felt sense can’t be manufactured in my experience.
In my portion of the session I tried to focus on contemplation and reflection as necessary and very important components to all the State Shifting, Holding your Seat and Ego State material. I’d like to remember to weave that in again and again as we continue through the curriculum so that when the program is over the men really have a good working habit of self examination using the PoF material along with meditation.
The topic that came up late in the night was the issue of visitors who don’t show up, don’t call ahead to cancel or after to explain why or stop coming to visit altogether – so much anger, hurt, irritation, disappointment and sadness. At this point in part because of time constraints all I was able to do was to convey empathy for the men that spoke. It was pretty clear that this was a hot button trigger for the men in general. Hope we can address this and assist the men with how to manage these kinds of issues later on. Gary and Alan will most probably be blogging too. Looking forward.